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I Cannot Say It Better

Gary Varvel [garyvarvel.com], the editorial cartoonist for the Indianapolis Star [www.indystar.com] is a genius who can draw a picture that is truly worth at LEAST a thousand words.

In this day of fewer and fewer newspapers, and inevitably, even fewer quality dailies, it is a wonderful gift to still have some publishers and editors who understand how humor can convey a stronger message than even the best written article—and as a writer, saying that does not come easily.

As a Christian, I wish you a Merry Christmas. As a member of this melting pot we call America, I wish you Happy Holidays. As a human, I wish peace on earth to all  people of good will—and I advise everyone to celebrate any and every holiday that reminds you that we are all in this together; there is no “them,” only 7.53 billion of “us.”

XMAS, Improved

My friend, Rick Martinez, with whom I’ve shared wonderful intellectual and philosophical conversations—as well as my writing efforts throughout the years—comments on some of my blogs. This is in response to my last blog, and is a beautiful thought for the season. I formatted it as a blog, but the thoughts and words are Rick’s, unchanged.

Thank you, Steve, for writing about Christmas—the Birth of Christ. No matter of all the “scientific” facts surrounding when Jesus was born and who believes what–there’s at least two general things we all acknowledge and accept as true. At the time and in the area of Christ’s birth, what was true 2000 years ago continues to be true today–some 2000 years later: There were believers and non-believers and warring factions back then as there are now. And–for Christians all over the world, the most tragic words ever written of our Lord are those set down by the Apostle John in the beginning of his Gospel:

He came unto his own, and his own received him not.

Bethlehem had no room for Him when He was born;

Nazareth, no room for Him when He lived; and

Jerusalem, no room for Him when He died.

XMAS

As a Christian, I hold this time of year as a most special time. December 25th has a one in 365 ¼ chance of being Jesus’ actual day of birth. In the absence of accurate records of births circa 003 BCE, and given the significance of the winter solstice—when each day has more light—the early Christian church may have taken advantage of events and combined celebrations. (Since gospel means, “good news,” it should not be surprising that Christians enjoy celebrating all of the good things in life.)

Some Christians take issue with the idea of Xmas, but, as often happens, a study of history enhances understanding. Xmas is not a way of removing Christ from Christmas, but a connection back to a time closer to his life. The “X” is the first letter of “Christos.” the Greek word for Christ.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Many Christians have seen the chi-rho symbol, and because of the prominence of the Greek letter rho—which looks like a “P”, they transpose the first (X) and second (P) letters and miss the fact that Xmas appropriately recognizes the Christ and does not replace his name with a variable.

 

 

 

 

 

 

So, regardless of your religious viewpoint, celebrate a few days of love. History has examples of wartime enemies, laying down their weapons, exchanging food and drink, singing Christmas Carols and playing football (soccer), for one precious, blessed evening. THAT is powerful.

 

 

Counting Down to Christmas

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Parents count the days until Christmas differently than regular people. Are no golden rings, calling birds, pipers, or even a pear tree (sans leaves, since it is winter). Instead, parents way fo counting down to Christmas includes:

Days needed to get a personalized Christmas stocking from (name of mail order retailer here).

The day for the Christmas band/orchestra/choir concert.

The day that the kids need to bring canned food for the needy or a gift for Toys for Tots.

The day you panic and run to the corner drugstore to print out family pictures to send with the Christmas cards.

The day you should have gotten the photos.

The day you should have sent out Christmas cards.

The day you panic and run to the post office to get stamps for the Christmas cards. (And out of 47 styles of special Christmas stamps, they have only one left—the one you used last year, and the year before that, and—you know).

The day you make a list for next year, which you promptly misplace.

Parents—people with strength, courage, humor–and a totally warped perception of reality, which is how they survive.

Christmas Night

What more can be said about Christmas that hasn’t already been said?

Among the gifts, one that many overlook –

A gift whose value is beyond measure.

A gift that need not, and indeed cannot be returned.

A gift that surely elicits the response, “It’s just what I wanted and just what I needed.”

A gift that doesn’t need the label to say, “From:”

A Savior.

So What Is Christmas?

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Isn’t that the question? What is Christmas?

Whatever you want it to be.

When you look at Christmas, it reflects your thoughts, your wants, your needs.

To a child, it’s a day that will never come. A day of wonderment and, of course, TOYS!

To a merchant, it may be the time of year when he gets his reward for keeping his doors open and his shelves stocked.

To some, it may be the time of year they can count on getting a job – even if only for a few months.

To a Christian, it may be a time of great joy – or even a time in which you wonder why you aren’t feeling great joy.

To a non-Christian, it may just be puzzling.

When Christ was on earth, He did the things only He could do. In other things, he expected His followers to take action – “Give her something to eat.” “Go out and take neither staff nor purse.”

He was trying to teach us to see things the way He did.

Not a leper. Not a despised tax collector or a prostitute. Each a person, loved by God.

This Christmas, look at it and try to see the best you can. A time of caring. A time to demonstrate what Christianity is about. Listen to others. Appreciate the fact that each of us is unique. O not judge.

Then take Christmas as a starting point and carry it with you as we head into the new year.

Trust me. Christmas will be what you want it to be.

Advent

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domestic-church.com

With so much going on, it snuck up on me that today is the First Sunday of Advent – the preparation time before Christmas. I walked into church and was surprised to see the Advent Wreath.

Our priest, Father Brian mentioned that as he was growing up in Western Pennsylvania, Catholics didn’t use Advent wreaths. Advent wreaths were a Protestant custom. In Northwest Ohio, either we did use Advent Wreaths or my memory has decided to alter the past and believe we did.

It really doesn’t matter. What matters is what we do through whatever avenue we communicate with God. Do we place Him where He belongs? Do we look out for those who need our care and support? Do we try to do what’s right even if it’s not easy or popular? However we celebrate – with a Menorah, an Advent Wreath, a prayer wheel, worry beads, whatever – let’s just do some good.

We owe it to each other. We owe it to Him.

It’s a Wonderful Life

Frank Capra

Frank Capra

I happened to run across some information about Frank Capra the academy award winning  motion picture director. You may know him for “It’s a Wonderful Life,” starring Jimmy Stewart and Donna Reed – a Christmas staple. If you grew up in the fifties or sixties you may also have enjoyed a reprieve from your science textbook to watch the sixteen millimeter films “Our Mr. Sun,” and “Hemo the Magnificant,” also directed by Frank Capra.

Capra came to America from Italy at the age of six, and was the embodiment of the American dream.

He believed in democracy, freedom and that man could and should do good.

Toward the end of his career he regretted the film industry’s attitude of anything for a buck. He abhorred its reliance on shock to attract audiences. He condemned its focus on nudity, violence and especially in dredging up the evil in men.

Today, almost all media has taken this path. Cable television. The Internet. The “News.”

I understand that evil is in this world, but things become evil when the goodness is removed, just as we have darkness when the light is removed.

This world as God intended was created good. Fortunately, there will always be people who aspire to do good; who try to treat others with respect; who value decency, and freedom, and who see the good in the world and their fellow man. Who try to fill the void of evil with good.

Frank Capra was one such man.

What a Drag It Is Getting Old

The Rolling Stones song came into my head today because I’ve been fighting a cold for the past 4 or 5 days. My daughter just got over the flu and she seemed as unhappy with missing much of the Christmas (excuse me, “Winter Holiday”) vacation as I am fighting this cold. I guess whichever age we are living seems to be the one that has the most intense experiences. Therefore, adults don’t understand what kids are going through and kids don’t understand the trials and tribulations of age.

Rolling Stones 1962

Rolling Stones 1962

Which brings me back to the Rolling Stones, of course.

When I was a freshman in high school among the popular music groups were the Beatles, the Rolling Stones, the Dave Clark Five, Herman’s Hermits, The Mamas and the Papas and, of course, Paul Revere and the Raiders (“featuring Mark Lindsay”). Of all of these, who would have guessed that the Rolling Stones would still be touring?

I guess it shows that you just never know.

The Beatles played as a touring band in Europe and made their entrance into America amid screaming girls and stadium venues. They were idolized. They had movies. Stores sold “Beatle Wigs.” However, if you count their years liberally, the best you can say is that they existed as a band from about 1957 to 1970. Most of the other bands I listed are pretty much among the “Whatever Happened To…” crowd.

Such is life. We can make a big splash and fade away. We can initially be viewed as an “also ran” like the Stones, but keep on keeping on until everyone else has faded away.

I figure that whatever you think of the Stones, it’s not a bad model.

As a parent, I’ve tried. I didn’t always succeed, but I kept on trying. Given enough time, I eventually got better at it. I’m still far from ideal, but I’m just going to keep trying. I think that’s the best way to succeed.

So, although years ago, the Stones sang “What a drag it is getting old,” they actually have done pretty well. I like to think that I’ve learned and improved and done pretty well myself.

At least I don’t have to sing “Brown Sugar” and “Jumping Jack Flash” 150 times per year for fifty years. However, comments like “Do you have homework?” and “Is your room clean?” top the 150 mark every year.

Thoughts on the Day after Christmas

It’s December 26th – Boxing Day in Great Britain, as well as Australia, New Zealand and Canada. In the US it’s a big day for returning unwanted gifts – mainly to recover the money to take advantage of the big sales. For the most part, among us guys, unless it’s tools or gadgets, we take a pass.

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The Catholic Church celebrates today as the feast of St. Stephen the Martyr. In my case, St. Stephen is both my patron saint, and I happen to belong to St. Stephen Martyr parish.

No – I didn’t get any gifts due either to Boxing Day or St. Stephen’s Day.

In some areas of the country today they’re getting snow. Where I live, we’ve gotten a lot of rain; the backyard looks like a lake. With snow you have grey skies, but the newly fallen snow looks white and pristine and makes things look brighter. With rain it’s all grey. However, you don’t have to shovel rain.

Yesterday our daughter came down with the flu, truncating the celbratory activities and necessiatating a trip to the local “Doc in the Box” for a diagnosis and Tamaflu. Merry Christmas! Don’t come over to our house unless you want to get sick!

Today I had to run to the store for various miscellaneous and sundry of which we had run out. I always try to be extra nice to the clerks this time of year because I worked retail many years ago and still remember how some customers can share their frustrations with the retail staff. This year it seems like most of the retail people outdid my efforts. They were very customer service oriented – both before Christmas and after. This was true of the discount stores, specialty stores and even the convenience stores. Over the past few years I would have thought that those with jobs would have been grateful, and now that things are improving, that attitude would have tapered off. Instead, I think that people are more optimistic and that moves them to a positive attitude.

Hope wins out over gratitude. Given that Hope is a divine gift, that really shouldn’t be a surprise.

As for me, I hope everyone had a great Christmas and is enjoying Kwanzaa, preparing for the New Year, Festivus or the Holiday season in general.

Almost Christmas

To belabor the obvious – it’s almost Christmas, or as kids everywhere like to remind us, it’s Christmas Eve-eve.

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Chevy Chase
National Lampoon’s
Christmas Vacation

We’re making the last minute preparations – the things that parents look at one another and realize, “I didn’t think about that either!” At least it’s better than, “I thought you were going to take care of it!”

So for the next few days, the blog will be short and sweet – or short in any case.

Now, don’t just stand there – try to remember where you hid that very-very special gift you bought in October then stashed it in a place, “that you’ll remember…”

The World Didn’t End

Of course, it would be kind of difficult to have a headline telling everyone, “The World Ended!” I can see the story, “Just as predicted by the ancient Mayans, the world ended on December 21st, right on schedule. Efforts to interview Mayans were unsuccessful due to the fact that pureblooded Mayans have either died out or intermarried with people of other tribal or national groups. Several individuals claiming to be descended from the ancient Mayans expressed a common theme, translated more or less into, “We told you so!”

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But since it DIDN’T end, what are the real implications?

  • The news media’s relevance continues to decline for reporting one more inconsequential and irrelevant story.
  • The malls and shopping centers are crammed with people who expected the world to end, but now have to get the Christmas shopping done in a hurry. (If you get a strange gift from Aunt Bertha, it’s probably because she was expecting the world to end. When she got to the mall, the choices for gifts were pretty small, so just be glad she remembered you at all.)
  • Sales of Mayan calendars have plummeted. It doesn’t matter anyways – it’s now as useful as a paper calendar from 2005.
  • People are scouring the Internet to find something else to worry about.
  • I am pleased to report that our two cats were totally untroubled by the situation, and have maintained their daily quota of naps.

So the world continues on.

I’d write more, but the kids just came down and told me they’re out of clean clothes. It seems that “just in case” they didn’t see the need to take their dirty clothes to the laundry room.

Christmas Mysteries

Almost all the stories about Christmas are full of magic and wonder. While most of us try to maintain an adult demeanor most of the time, Christmas does tend to bring out the child in each of us. Every child has wondered about these things.

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  • Did the star show up at the time of Jesus’ birth or did it show up far enough in advance to give the Wise Men a head start?
  • What was the star? Just a new star? A supernova? Was it Halley’s Comet? (Admit it – you’ve wondered that.)
  • When the Magi packed up and headed toward Bethlehem, did one of them really think, “Myrrh – an embalming ointment. That’s what a newborn king would want!”
  • On the other hand, incense is nice, and gold always comes in handy.
  • Aren’t you glad that for the U.S. census you don’t have to pack up the family and travel to the city from which your family came?
  • I’m a city kid – I don’t even like walking through a barn, much less sleeping in one.
  • At least we know that it was Kosher – so it wasn’t a pig barn (yuck!)
  • Imagine the shepherd boys returning home and telling their Jewish mother what they saw. They likely got checked for a fever, a serving of the equivalent of chicken soup and sent to bed until the illness passed.

Of course, there is modern magic and wonder.

  • Toys for Tots
  • Money in the Salvation Army kettle
  • Jesse trees
  • Food drives
  • Families getting together
  • Enjoying our children’s excitement.

Christmas is getting closer. Share the magic and the wonder.

Honked Off!

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I admit it! I get honked off at people!

The guy who drove in the right lane and then made the illegal left turn right in front of me.

The person who opened up the package of lunch meat, ate half of it, then put it back in the cooler at Wal-Mart so I could buy it (yuk!)

The clown coming out of the theater who was loudly talking about the surprise conclusion of the movie I was waiting in line to see.

Every boss I’ve ever had (at one time or another – even the best ones [with the possible exception of Ron]).

I get honked off!

We all do!

However, (you knew there would be a “however”) let’s put things in perspective.

After the illegal left turn, if I wasn’t involved in an accident, it’s over. Forever. Period. Done.

If that person was hungry, I wish I would have known. I’d have given him the rest of the lunch meat, some bread, some chips, and a few other things to go with it.

The movie spoiler? Was anything in my entire existence impacted by knowing the ending of the movie? Remember “When Harry Met Sally” when Harry said he always read the end of the book “in case he died.” I wasn’t impressed then (as Nora Ephron intended) nor am I now.

Honked off at bosses? I’ve been a boss – many times. I’m sure every one of my employees had at least one day (and only one day – if I’m lucky) in which they got honked off at me.

So, why am I bringing this up?

“Peace on earth and to men (and women and children) of good will”

Let’s take the next few days to be people of good will. For one another, but also for ourselves.

Smile at the harried clerk at the checkout and wish him or her a Merry Christmas. They may be happy to have a job, but it’s a demanding job, nevertheless. (Been there, done that.)

You know you’ve got a dollar somewhere – put it into the Salvation Army kettle – even if you did so yesterday. It’s a DOLLAR, for crying out loud! (Okay, the economy sucks. If you can do a quarter – even that will help. If you can’t – that’s quite a bit different from “you won’t.” When you can – you know…)

Call a friend – better yet the friend who honked you off so long ago you can’t even remember how or why.

Give your kids a hug and tell them how special they are.

If you have a spouse or special someone, tell them that Mistletoe is optional.

After all that, kick your shoes off, make yourself comfortable and relax. You’ve earned it.

It’s a great time of year, isn’t it?

Hey! Wasn’t I honked off at the beginning of this blog?

Perspective

Dr Seuss(Theodor Seuss Geisel)We Miss You!

Dr. Seuss
(Theodor Seuss Geisel)
We Miss You!

 

For the Christmas season in 2005 I was bouncing around Kuwait, Iraq and Afghanistan. The Sailors I was responsible for worked hard unloading and reloading ships, acting as Customs Inspectors and training Iraqi and Afghani forces. When the holidays approached, they looked forward to some well-deserved downtime.

Alas, it was not to be.

When the holidays come, so do FOGOs – Flag Officers (Admirals) and General Officers (Generals). Instead of a day to catch up on some shuteye, read a book, relax or whatever, the Sailors (as well as their Army, Marine, Air Force and Coast Guard compatriots) had to put on a clean, pressed uniform and spend half a day at the DFAC (Dining Facility) while a FOGO they’d never met carved the turkey or dished up mashed potatoes on the food line and then sat and “chatted” with the service members.

All well-intentioned, but not exactly a bull’s-eye.

This Christmas, may I suggest that whatever you’re planning on doing to entertain or support others, please – keep your audience in mind. If you give them what they want, it’s so much better than if you give them what you want to give.

Just a thought.

Advent

advent
(ˈædvɛnt, -vənt) an arrival or coming, esp one which is awaited [C12: from Latin adventus,  from advenīre , from ad-  to + venīre  to come]   –   World English Dictionary

Thanks to St. Paul's Episcopal ChurchChestnut Hill, Philadelphia, PA

Thanks to St. Paul’s Episcopal Church
Chestnut Hill, Philadelphia, PA

Advent is celebrated by many Christians as the time before Christmas, including the four Sundays preceding the holiday. In the Catholic Church not only is an Advent wreath used, which has 3 purple candles and one rose colored but also the priest’s vestments are of the same colors. The purple signifies preparation by prayer and fasting, and focuses on the fact that Jesus’ coming is a gift – not something for which we are worthy.

The third Sunday is called Gaudete Sunday. Gaudete means “Rejoice” in Latin and was the first word of the entrance prayer which was formerly sung or read in Latin. For Gaudete Sunday, the priest’s vestments are rose*.

While Advent is encouraged as a time of reflection, prayer and good works, it is also a time of joy. These days, in a secular world, we’ve got the joy down pat, but sometimes seem to forget that we should prepare spiritually for Christmas as well.

Mankind looked forward to the arrival of a Savior for thousands of years. Of course, we expected a great leader in the political sense who would out-Moses Moses and out-David King David.

Jesus instead came as a common man. A common man with an important message. You don’t even have to be a believer to see the importance of His words, their wisdom and their goodness.

But those of us who are believers also know that the most important gift was that He renewed the full relationship between us and God. This was more important than any military victory.

So as you’re listening to Christmas music on the radio, trimming the tree or wrapping gifts, let it be your very soul that is feeling the joy.

* And invariably the priest points out at the beginning of Mass that “This color is ‘rose’ not ‘pink’.”


Nowhere Man (Part 4)

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“I didn’t quite catch your name,” I tried again.

“That’s because I never told you,” came the reply. “Besides, you couldn’t pronounce it if I did. Not even in your head.”

This last comment reminded me that we were communicating without actually talking. We were just thinking things at each other.

“Can you at least tell me what you are and how we’re able to communicate like this,” I asked.

“We can communicate like this because this is the way that I communicate and you’re with me. Actually you have communicated like this yourself, but you haven’t thought about it in a while. You haven’t forgotten, you just haven’t given it any attention lately.”

“And what are you,” I persisted. I sensed a smile in the response.

“You can think of me as a messenger.”

“Are you here to deliver a message?”

“Yes.”

“To me?”

“Yes.”

“Well, what is it?” I demanded.

“Always impatient,” came the reply. “The little boy who was almost apoplectic from Thanksgiving until Christmas morning. The teenager who woke his father well before dawn on his sixteenth birthday so he could finally get his driver’s license. Always impatient.”

“You seem to know a lot about me,” I replied impatiently.

“I told you, I was there.”

“You told me that you were there at my Statistics class.”

“I did. I was. But I’ve been with you all along.”

“As if being semi-disembodied wasn’t creepy enough,” I offered. “This is getting really, really creepy.”

I sensed the translucent ethereal equivalent of a sigh.

“Let’s see if I can put this in terms you’ll understand,” came the reply. “It’s my job to know what you’re doing – to look out for you. That’s why I’ve been permitted to bring a message to you.”

I waited.

“What do you have to show for your life?”

“That’s a question, not a message,” I replied, perhaps with a little bit too much smugness.

“Well?”

“I think I’ve done alright.”

“Don’t forget I was there – every step of the way. What do you really have to show?”

“If you know me as you claim to,” I replied, “then you know I graduated magna cum laud from Columbia. I have an MBA from Harvard Business School and a law degree from Yale.”

“You have a Bachelors and a Masters in business from the University of Akron.”

“With which I’ve done pretty well,” I retorted. “I’m making good money, top salesman at work, drive a Porsche…”

“And that’s what you feel is important? What did you do with the dreams that you had? Where are the ideals you believed in when you were younger? You now believe that money and a fancy car is what’s important?

“You drive a fancy European car with a racing engine so you can average 15 miles per hour during rush hour in stop and go traffic? Your money that sits in some brokerage account because it lost half its value when the economy tanked?”

“Not quite half,” I weakly replied.

“Don’t you think there are other things more important?”

(To be concluded)